Experience Makers, welcome. I’m so glad you’re here, though I know you didn’t come here lightly. You’re probably tired—so, so tired—of juggling everything in your life: work, kids, errands, friends, the constant hustle. The pressure to be everything to everyone. And in the middle of all of that, something feels like it’s slipping through the cracks. Something important.
And that something, my love, is connection. Real, deep, meaningful connection with your partner.
If you’re listening to this right now, I’m talking directly to you—the woman who is feeling like there’s never enough time for your relationship. The woman who is giving, giving, giving to everyone and everything, except herself and her partner. You’re overwhelmed. You’re stretched so thin, and yet, you can’t remember the last time you sat with your partner, truly sat, and connected in a way that made you feel seen, heard, and loved.
It’s like you’re both living parallel lives, orbiting around each other, but never really meeting in the middle. The routines, the responsibilities, the daily grind—every day is just about getting through the motions, just surviving, not thriving. The idea of nurturing your relationship seems like a distant dream. You can’t even remember what it felt like to have a conversation that wasn’t about logistics or chores or the kids.
So, let’s sit with that for a moment. Let’s talk about that quiet ache you’re feeling—because I see it. I see the exhaustion. I see the longing for connection that you haven’t had the space to fully express. And I want you to know, you’re not alone in this.
How long has it been since you’ve felt seen by your partner? I mean, really seen. Not just in passing, not just in the busy routines of life, but seen for everything that you are. For the person you are, beyond the role of partner, mother, worker, or caretaker. When was the last time you felt like you had their full attention—when the world wasn’t rushing around you, and the pressures of life didn’t take over the space you shared together?
It’s heartbreaking, isn’t it? When you’re with someone, and yet… there’s this feeling of distance. And no matter how much you try to fill the gap—no matter how hard you try to make it work—you can’t quite reach each other. You can’t remember the last time you had the space to just be together. No distractions. No phone calls, no to-do lists, no kids needing something, no work emails pulling you in. Just the two of you, being present.
Maybe at first, you told yourself, It’s just a phase. Life’s busy. You’ll get back to it. But the truth is, that phase keeps stretching on, doesn’t it? And every day, you feel a little more disconnected. A little more distant. A little more like two strangers sharing a house, instead of two people sharing a life.
I know the feeling all too well—the constant pressure to keep going. To keep the family together, to keep the house running, to keep your work on track. And somewhere along the way, you lose the ability to just stop. To just be. To sit and have a conversation without your mind racing ahead to the next thing.
I can hear the exhaustion in your heart. Because you want to connect. You want to find that spark again. You want to feel close, to feel that intimacy that you once shared, but it’s hard. How do you find time for connection when there’s never enough time in the day? How do you nurture your relationship when it feels like every moment is consumed by something else?
You’ve probably tried. You’ve probably made little attempts here and there—a date night, a quiet moment after the kids are asleep, a small gesture—but those moments feel so rare, don’t they? They’re like little glimpses of what you’re longing for, but they’re fleeting. And every time they slip through your fingers, you feel the weight of the distance between you and your partner grow just a little more.
I want you to pause right here. I want you to close your eyes, if you can, and take a deep breath. Let yourself feel everything in your body. All the tension. The frustration. The longing. The overwhelm.
And as you breathe in, I want you to remember a time when you felt truly connected to your partner. A time when you didn’t have to worry about the next task or the next responsibility. When the world wasn’t pulling you in every direction. Maybe it was in the early days of your relationship, or maybe it was just a few weeks ago before life got too busy. But take a moment to remember that feeling.
Do you remember it? The way your heart felt lighter. The way everything seemed in sync. The way you laughed without having to think about it, just because you were together in that moment?
Now, bring yourself back to the present. The reality of where you are right now. The reality of the distance you feel. The lack of time. The constant running. The responsibilities. And maybe, just maybe, a small voice inside you wonders if that connection is gone for good. Or if you’ll ever get it back.
I can feel that pain. I can hear the ache in your voice, even if you haven’t said a word. It’s hard to stay present when you feel like you’re always moving. Always hustling. Always trying to do it all, for everyone else. And when you look up, you realize you’ve left yourself—and your relationship—behind.
But I want you to hear me when I say this: You’re not alone. So many of us—so many women—are living this same reality. The hustle, the busyness, the pressure to be everything, and the slow erosion of the connection that once made your relationship feel like home. It’s painful. It’s isolating. And I know it can feel like it’s never going to change.
But right now, in this moment, I want you to know that I see you. I see the love you still have for your partner, even if it feels like it’s lost beneath everything else. I see how deeply you long for that connection again, for that closeness that once came so easily. And even if it feels impossible, even if it feels like it might never happen, I need you to know that the love is still there. It hasn’t gone anywhere.
You are still you. Even in the chaos. Even in the overwhelm. Even in the moments where it feels like you’ve lost touch with each other, the love you share is still there, quietly waiting for the space to be nurtured again.
I know it might feel like there’s no time for this right now. No time to slow down. No time to connect. No time to have a deep, meaningful conversation that doesn’t revolve around logistics. But I want you to hear this one truth: the love, the connection, the intimacy that you crave—it doesn’t disappear. It gets buried. But it can always be uncovered. It’s waiting for the right moment, for the right space. And sometimes, that moment is a quiet one. A moment when you’re not rushing. A moment when you just sit together, without the world pulling you in a hundred different directions.
But for now, it’s okay to just sit with where you are. It’s okay to admit that the connection is missing, that you miss feeling seen, that you long to feel more than just the roles you’ve been playing. It’s okay to acknowledge that this is hard.
I see the way you’re holding on, the way you’re keeping everything together, trying to balance it all. And I want you to know, even if you can’t find the time to connect in the ways you want to right now, you are doing your best. You’re doing more than enough.
I hope you can give yourself grace, even when everything feels like too much. Because you deserve that grace. You deserve to breathe, to rest, to feel loved and seen. And even though it might feel like the connection you once had is slipping away, I want you to know it’s not gone forever. It’s just waiting for the moment when you have the space to nurture it again.
Until then, just remember: you are doing the best you can. And even in the chaos, you are loved. Always.
Thank you for being here. For listening. For giving yourself the time to hear this. You’re never alone in this. I’m holding space for you, always.
