Transcript

Hey, love. I’m so glad you’ve decided to join me here today. I know this isn’t easy, and I know it’s not something you’ve probably wanted to admit out loud, even to yourself. But I want to tell you, just by being here, you’ve already taken a brave step. This is your space. This moment is for you.

Today, I want to talk to the woman who feels like the intimacy in her relationship is slipping away. Who feels that quiet ache in her chest when she realizes that the closeness, the connection, the spark that once felt so effortless, has faded. It’s not the love that’s gone. The love is still there. But the connection? The emotional closeness? The intimacy? That’s the part that’s become distant. And I want you to know, that’s okay. I see you. I understand this feeling. And I’m here to hold this space for you, as you let it all in.

Do you remember the days when the connection between you and your partner felt easy? When it was natural to reach for each other, to laugh together, to hold hands in the middle of the kitchen, to talk about your days like they mattered to each other? I bet those moments are still there in the back of your mind, tucked away, somewhere. You can feel them, can’t you? The laughter. The closeness. The knowing looks. The way you could look at each other and everything would just feel... right.

And now? Now it feels like there’s this gap between you two. It’s not something you’ve been able to pinpoint exactly, but it’s there. It’s like a quiet distance, a growing space between you and your partner that neither of you are really addressing. It’s the little things—the lack of touch, the absence of meaningful conversations, the way the silence in the room feels heavier than it used to.

You’ve tried to ignore it. Maybe you’ve told yourself, It’s just a phase. Things will go back to normal. But, deep down, you know that something is different. You’ve noticed it for a while now. The intimacy—the kind that goes beyond just physical touch—isn’t there anymore. You wonder, When did this happen? How did you go from being so close to feeling so far apart?

And then there’s the loneliness that comes with it. It’s not the same kind of loneliness you might feel when you’re alone in a room. No, this kind of loneliness feels different. It’s the kind that comes when you’re with someone, when you’re in the same house, sleeping in the same bed, but still feel... alone. You’re still trying. You’re still giving parts of yourself. But the connection just isn’t there. And that’s hard. That’s the kind of loneliness that makes your heart ache, that makes you feel like you’re walking through your days with a weight on your chest.

You long for the closeness. For the kind of connection that makes you feel seen. For the type of intimacy where you’re not just partners or parents or co-workers in the same space—you’re together, truly, intimately together. And right now, it’s hard to even remember what that felt like. You wonder if it’s possible to get it back, or if you’re just stuck in this place where the distance between you grows wider and wider.

Maybe you’ve tried to initiate intimacy—tried to reach out, tried to rekindle the flame—but it’s not as easy as it used to be. Maybe you’ve been met with indifference, or maybe there’s just a quiet hesitation, a lack of response that leaves you feeling invisible. And that? That hurts. It hurts to feel like you’re reaching for something, but your partner isn’t there to meet you halfway. It makes you feel... small. Maybe even a little invisible.

But what I want you to know is that this isn’t your fault. Intimacy is something that takes effort from both people. And sometimes, when life becomes overwhelming, when the daily grind starts to eat away at the moments that once connected you, things start to slip. Sometimes, intimacy fades not because of something either of you did, but because of everything else that’s been happening around you. The work, the responsibilities, the exhaustion. And when you’re tired—emotionally, physically, mentally—it’s so easy to let the intimacy fall to the wayside.

It’s not that you don’t love each other. It’s not that you’ve stopped caring. But life has a way of pulling the attention away from what matters most. And before you know it, you’ve gone from being two people who couldn’t wait to be together to two people who are merely sharing the same space, living parallel lives instead of one together.

I hear you, love. I hear the ache in your heart. You want that connection back. You want to feel close again. You want to know that you’re still seen, still desired, still loved. But right now, it feels like there’s this wall between you and your partner that neither of you knows how to break down.

And what makes it even harder is the guilt, isn’t it? You wonder if it’s your fault somehow. Maybe you’ve let the day-to-day responsibilities take over. Maybe you’ve become too focused on everything else—work, kids, family, life—to focus on each other. But deep down, you can feel the need for closeness. You can feel the space between you growing wider, and that’s when the guilt really starts to creep in.

You ask yourself, Did I do something wrong? Am I not enough? But love, I want you to hear this loud and clear: You are not the problem here. There’s nothing inherently wrong with you. The ebb and flow of intimacy in relationships is natural. It’s easy for life to crowd in and push the things that really matter—like emotional closeness—into the background. The truth is, intimacy requires attention, care, and connection. And sometimes, when everything else gets in the way, it can feel like intimacy is the first thing to go.

But that doesn’t mean it’s gone forever. That doesn’t mean that the love and connection you share are gone. It just means that, right now, it’s hidden beneath the weight of everything else. It’s buried under the exhaustion, the distractions, the pressure of everything you have to do. And I know that it feels heavy. It feels so heavy. But you’re not alone in this.

Sometimes, intimacy fades not because we don’t care, but because we’re tired. We’re tired of carrying everything—of keeping the relationship together while also holding the weight of life. And in that exhaustion, the small, intimate moments get lost. The shared glances, the quiet moments of connection, the emotional check-ins—they all get pushed aside for “more important” things. But the thing is, love, those little moments? Those are what keep the intimacy alive. Those are the sparks that keep the fire from going out.

But right now, I want you to understand something important: It’s okay to feel like things have shifted. It’s okay to miss the intimacy, to long for the connection that used to be so easy. This doesn’t mean it’s the end of your relationship. It doesn’t mean that you’re failing. It just means you’re human.

You’ve been through a lot. And sometimes, relationships go through phases where intimacy isn’t the priority. But I want you to know that your feelings are valid. The ache in your chest? That’s real. The longing for that closeness? That’s real. And it’s okay to grieve that, to sit with that feeling for a moment, and to just acknowledge it. Because you deserve to feel seen. You deserve to feel close. You deserve to feel loved.

I want you to know that even though it may feel like things have changed, even though it may feel like you and your partner are drifting apart, that doesn’t mean that you’ve lost everything. This is just a season. And seasons change. The intimacy that feels distant now can find its way back, when both of you are ready to tend to it. It might take time, and that’s okay. What matters is that you’re acknowledging it. That you’re feeling it. That you’re honoring the love that’s still there, even if it’s buried under the weight of everything else.

And I want to leave you with this, love: You are not alone. You are not invisible. You are still seen. And that intimacy you long for? It’s not gone forever. You’ll find your way back. It’ll take time, but you’ll find your way back to each other.

Thank you for being here with me today. Take care of your heart, love. You deserve the closeness, the connection, and the love that you crave. Always.